In single women circles, I have heard most of them describe the kind of husband one would like to marry. Even though most of us don’t exhaustively describe the qualities we want the truth is, in our hearts of hearts we do have them. Well, I also do but honestly, sometimes I don’t even know what I want. Am in that stage where the qualities have changed over time where perhaps only a few things matter.

You know, it’s so easy for us to make a list that is well structured and sadly we can end up seeking for perfection. Let’s get one thing clear. Even if you get to marry the man or woman of your dreams, guess what? they are fallen just as you are. They’re on their journey to Glorification as they get daily sanctified by the Holy Spirit through the Word of God, that is if they are born again. So you are going to marry a redeemed sinner who is sustained by the grace of God.

Marshall Segal, in his book, Not Yet Married, he writes “In our pursuit, the search for a spouse isn’t a pursuit of perfection but a mutually flawed pursuit of Jesus. It is a faith-filled attempt to become like Him and to make Him known with another”.It doesn’t mean you just settle for anyone just because they claim to be born again don’t miss that. We ought not to seek perfection because we ourselves are not.

As I have said, in my hearts of hearts I also have a desire for the kind of man I want to do life with God willing. I earnestly pray that the desire for companionship will not become an idol in your life and mine because it can be. Someone said, the heart is an idol factory and they were right. As much as I want to be loved as Christ loves the church, to be washed with the Word, be led well in the Lord and the list can go and on. We all want our spouse to be a gift to us, right? But will I be the gift to him as much as I want him to be a gift to me?

This is my take it doesn’t have to be yours. Instead of concentrating so much on what I want in him, I purpose to fully be immersed in Christ, drink deeply from the Scriptures and trust God to mold me into the kind of spouse my future husband will need. In this period as a single person, I don’t want to live as though companionship is all I live for but to joyfully live for the sake of Christ. Singleness is a gift and I pray that God will give us the ability to enjoy it.


So, my future love, I will wait for you until when the Author of love, God, will make our paths to cross and bring our hearts together in His own appointed time. I will wait for you as the Lord prepares you and me for His glory. I will wait for you until the Lord makes it clear we are ready. I will wait for you and I pray that I will not fall into false companionship and cheap intimacy. Let purity in the Lord be my goal. I will wait for you as the Lord makes each of us complete individuals in Him. Forbid it that any of us will love the other more than God when He makes it happen because that is idolatry. As I wait for you, may I learn to love as Christ loves, show grace and mercy as I have received from the Lord.

There are lots of things I would like to write but this outweighs them all. As I wait, may the Lord gracefully equip me into a noble, radical, virtuous and God-fearing woman as it is displayed in Scripture. Hey love, I will not be perfect and I don’t expect you to be because that will only happen when Christ comes back. I only pray that I will be your suitable helper as God made Eve for Adam. May He preserve you for me and me for you but above all preserve us for Himself.

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Well, I know you may be reading this thinking, is there one specific person who was created just for you? Let me answer this. My future husband doesn’t have my name written on his forehead or his on mine lol. As we grow up, am quite sure we have liked different people I mean been attracted to different people of the opposite sex. My take is that God gives us a choice to choose who we marry but I believe in His Sovereignty, He guides us to the person whom together we get to display the relationship between Christ and the church. I believe that’s the essence of marriage but then I won’t say more because  I have never been married to know what it means to love someone unconditionally as Christ loves the church in the context of marriage.

God knows exactly when we need a spouse and what we need in them so I would just say, trust God. Joshua Harris, in his book, Boy Meets Girl, which I found to be amazing he writes. “Your greatest need is not a spouse. Your greatest need is to be delivered from the wrath of God –and that has already been accomplished for you through the death and resurrection of Christ. So why doubt that God will provide a much, much lesser need? Trust His Sovereignty, trust His Wisdom, trust His Love. His plan for your life can’t be thwarted. He is in control. If marriage is His will for you, He knows exactly what you need in a spouse and in His unfathomable wisdom, He knows when you will be ready. His timing will be perfect”.

I love the way the Bible describes the timing of God.

Ecclesiastes 3:11

He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.


The bigger picture of this article is that I will wait for the King of Kings, our Lord Jesus Christ. The waiting of a spouse is vital and companionship is beautiful. God ordained it but it’s temporary. The desire of my heart is to wait upon what is eternal. I think of how it will be to see the Lord. Isaiah gives us a glimpse of it when he had a vision of the Lord.

Isaiah 6; 1-7

In the year that King Uzziah died, I saw the Lord sitting upon a throne, high and lifted up; and the train of his robe filled the temple.  Above him stood the seraphim. Each had six wings: with two he covered his face, and with two he covered his feet, and with two he flew. And one called to another and said: “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord of hosts; the whole earth is full of his glory!” And the foundations of the thresholds shook at the voice of him who called, and the house was filled with smoke. And I said: “Woe is me! For I am lost; for I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts!”

Then one of the seraphim flew to me, having in his hand a burning coal that he had taken with tongs from the altar.  And he touched my mouth and said: “Behold, this has touched your lips; your guilt is taken away, and your sin atoned for.”

Not even the sinless beings look to God directly. Think about how glorious it will be when Christ comes back. I pray to joyfully wait upon this with adoration. We can also look at what John says in his vision.

Revelation 1:17-18

When I saw him, I fell at his feet as though dead. But he laid his right hand on me, saying, “Fear not, I am the first and the last, and the living one. I died, and behold I am alive forevermore, and I have the keys of Death and Hades.

These are just but examples of the visions to get just a glimpse of it. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:12.

For now, we see in a mirror dimly but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

In the song, I can only imagine –Mercy me, I love this portion.

Surrounded by your glory

What will my heart feel

Will I dance for you Jesus

Or in awe of You be still

Will I stand in Your presence

To my knees will I fall

Will I sing hallelujah

Will I be able to speak at all

I can only imagine.

Indeed I can only imagine. As I wait I pray that these words of the Psalmist will be true of your life and my life as we wait upon the Lord.

Psalms 73: 25-26

Whom have I in heaven but you?

And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you.

My flesh and my heart may fail,

But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Lord, I will wait for You. Help me to wait diligently. Are you waiting on the Lord? I pray that we will not be consumed to chase after the things of this world and let them obscure our vision of God and we forget on this planet we are pilgrims. Our home is in Heaven to those who are born again. If you are not I pray that God will work on your heart because His second coming, Christ will come back as a judge to judge the world.

Philippians 3:20-21

But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself.


Help us, Lord, to wait for You.





“You’re beautiful but you look ugly when you smile….” Ouch! That’s cold, rude, mean and any other description you would want to give that comment. This was a comment I received back in the days when I was around 12 years, I don’t recall the exact age but I definitely remember the comment crystal clear. I was wounded and down the line, I couldn’t smile at pictures. I hated my smile so much. I felt insecure about my appearance and I wasn’t confident all, especially about my smile that I had believed, was awful. Isn’t this what we wake up to? Suicide cases of people hating themselves, bullying is no strange to us and so many cases revolving around insecurity about our appearance. If we could share our stories most of us if not all would give an account of been told they are ugly, perhaps their bodies are out of shape and ugly comments we have received and embraced and hurt deep inside.

My confidence started to creep slowly by the reverse of that comment by other different people complimenting that my smile was beautiful. Now, I could smile at pictures and believe I was beautiful based on comments and found my value in that. So would our hearts be healed if we just have people tell us how pretty we are or for guys how fine you are? Will we be completely happy if we wake up and tell ourselves how valuable we are? , Or perhaps if we take the coolest selfies and post them and receive great comments and 1000likes is that it? Let’s go further maybe hit the gym and have sexy bodies, be experts in makeup would that bring our ultimate joy? I am not against working out or doing makeup come on nothing is wrong with that. The danger creeps in if that’s where we draw our value from. So if you love makeup stay pretty, if you like working out hit the gym, diet and stay fit.

Maybe all the above could help but I doubt if it would deal with the root problem of feeling unworthy. I mean if this was the solution then suicide cases, drug addiction or even engaging in shameful acts to try and feel worthy would cease. How many cases have come we across of ladies having engaged in sexual sin so they can feel appreciated? I highly doubt people get into drug addiction because it’s awesome. Plastic surgery is the talk of the day today, people seeking to fix where they feel they don’t look as pretty. Technology has come up with brilliant ways to enhance beauty or fitness in a man?. Hey, I almost forgot transgender doesn’t shake the world anymore. The thirst to feel worthy in our appearance has gone to the extreme and the more we seek it the more empty we feel.

A lady can be an epitome of beauty and be so empty inside. Does it tremble our hearts to achieve all the beauty in this world and end up damned in eternity?.



How do we get to see beauty in the right way? The word of God will always stand to be our anchor. I strongly believe that trying to raise our self-esteem with any kind of method doesn’t help at the end of the day but gazing at Him who made us and having His glory shine back at us, then we will appreciate His handiwork that He created us in His own image.

                   ( Gen 1: 27) So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him:  male and female he created them.

So devaluing ourselves or even others is diminishing the work of God because the Creator in His Majesty and Glory lavished His love on us by creating us. We are fallen beings and imperfect yet we have received mercy and grace so we have no right to bruise others by diminishing their appearance or even devaluing our own. None of us is more important before God because of their appearance actually, none of us is worthy to stand before Him but only through Christ do we have a right stand with God. I suggest to you the best way we can appreciate God creating us and define beauty is to gaze and gaze upon the Glory and Beauty of God through immersing ourselves into His Word, walking in obedience of His word and daily enjoying His presence in our lives.



                                (Proverbs 31:30)  Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

True beauty is wrapped up in the verse above. A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Seeking worldly beauty is surely in vain this doesn’t mean we should be reckless with our bodies, the fear of God teaches us we are stewards of our bodies. We should take care of our bodies to bring Glory to God not to be boastful of how beautiful we think we are or look down upon those we think are less beautiful.  The root problem is our hearts. Our hearts are frail. Where does boasting come from? Where does bullying come from? Where do we find the gut to diminish someone’s else appearance?. Jeremiah 17:7 describes the heart well.

                            The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?

The only way to find true beauty in Christ is to give our hearts to God who is able to change us and cause us to seek Him diligently. He alone is able to heal us from scars we have on the subject of beauty. Only He is able to help us to seek true beauty as Paul and Peter would exhort us.

1 Peter 3:3-4 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

2 Timothy 2:9-10  likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.




This is the kind of beauty that never decays as the outward body does. Adorning of the hidden person of the heart. Peter tells us that this is very precious to God. That alone should grip our hearts to want to seek what is precious to God. Good news is that we don’t do this on our own, God helps through His Spirit but only when our hearts are right with God. Do you have a relationship with God through receiving His son Jesus Christ as your personal Savior?.

You can’t know true beauty if you don’t know God. I pray that the Holy Spirit will work on our hearts and regenerate those who are still not born again because only God is able to call us from the darkness of our sin and bring our hearts to Him and help us to savor Him. So let’s gaze and behold the Beauty of Christ and we will find our worth in Christ. We will find our treasure and supreme joy in Him. As we gaze, His beauty will be reflected back on us. Beloved, labor to find your beauty in the person of Jesus Christ who is our supreme beauty, treasure, and joy.


Blessing, Sha.





Back in my high school days, I couldn’t wait to finish school. The idea of been a citizen thrilled my heart. You know, not having to be subjected to school protocols (kuvaa uniform, no long nails, hakuna kuchana nywele style, etc.) I couldn’t wait to say goodbye to all that. This doesn’t imply I didn’t like school or work hard. I took my studies seriously but that freedom as I thought filled my heart at least for me.

I had all these plans after high school. Graduate at 21 or 22 years and get a good job, get a master’s degree by 25 yrs. Pursue a Ph.D. and probably finish studies by the time I hit 40years. Then to the matters of the heart hehe. Get married before 30 to my Mr. Right, as they say, my prince charming, my beloved. Have kids before 35 and bring them up as a great mum. My plans were complex, to start with I love traveling, so I envisioned traveling a lot. Work for an international company to get the opportunity to travel the world. Go on vacations with bae and kids. Did I mention a spectacular wedding! I genuinely love weddings and an out of this world proposal (the ideas I saw from soap operas which are just fiction). Retire early and become a great investor. That was my ideal plan for life.

Now, I want you to notice that all these plans are purely self- centered. I didn’t have plans on how I would grow in the knowledge of the Scriptures. Am not saying they were wrong but pause to see that I didn’t include “If God wills.” I believed I could achieve all these things as long as I have a positive attitude, believe it and work hard. Not to forget I could claim it in the spiritual realm isn’t that the norm? It has been four years down the line since I cleared high school (am 23) and am only beginning to get on my feet in regards to studies. Talk about prince charming, I always believed as long as you know how to play the game of relationship bae will stay right? It’s only dawning on my heart that a good relationship ought to be God-centred, intentional and marriage oriented. Dating with an intention to marry is a hold for now as I plead with the Lord to work on my heart to fully comprehend how He designed relationships to be. Am patiently waiting on the Lord that if it pleases Him, one day He will grant me the gift of marriage. So what about traveling, I have never been out of Kenya and have only visited a few places in Kenya. Am not yet 40years to complain and say none of these came to pass, but I want you to see the prideful attitude I had as I visualized my life after high-school.

It is important that you understand that am not bashing off these plans but zooming in to where my trust was as I made my plans and if they aligned with God’s Word. Planning is very important; we shouldn’t live aimlessly, so I want us to look at what the Bible exhorts us on the same. So let’s focus together on;

    JAMES (4: 13-16)

Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— 14 yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. 15 Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” 16 As it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil.

In this particular text, James was talking about business people or merchants, but it broadly addresses everyone. He is not against wise business planning but rather planning that leaves God out. We can easily say we put our plans before God, but our hearts are so prideful that we can accomplish everything on our own. So am not going to talk about business planning at all but the general plans we make in our lives.

In verse 14, we’re told that we don’t know what tomorrow will bring. We make plans, but it is in God’s hands how tomorrow will be. In Jesus ’teaching He exhorts us in (Matthew 6:34) “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. He knew very well we would make plans for the following day and be anxious if all our plans would come to pass. We are encouraged not to worry for we don’t know about tomorrow.

In the same verse, James tells us that our lives are like a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. He uses this to show us the transitory nature of life. We are born into this world, stay for a while as God wills then we disappear.  This shows us that how long we live is totally up to God. The Psalmist echoes this profoundly in (Psalms 39: 5) Behold, you have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing before you. Surely all mankind stands as a mere breath!

As we make our plans, we ought to remember that God gets to approve if they will come to pass or not. We all want our dreams to come to pass, but at the end of the day, God’s purposes will stand. (Isaiah 46: 9-10) Declaring the end from the beginning and from ancient times things not yet done, saying, ‘My counsel shall stand, and I will accomplish all my purpose. The author of Proverbs explains well that we are to make plans in our lives but explicitly reminds us the final word is from the Lord. (Proverbs 16:1) The plans of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord. (Proverbs 19:21) Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand.

The heart of this message in verse 15. It shows the Sovereignty of God. James says “If the Lord wills.” It is crystal clear that God is sovereign over all of my plans.  In Matthew Henry commentary on this text he writes, “We must remember that our times are not in our own hands, but at the disposal of God; we live as long as God appoints, and in the circumstances God appoints, and therefore must be submissive to him, even as to life itself. If the Lord will, we shall do this or that. All our actions and designs are under the control of Heaven.” I realize I made so many plans, but now am learning that God’s Sovereignty rules over them all. So then, the true Christian submits his or her plans to the Lordship of Christ.

It is vital to embrace the will of God even when we feel our plans didn’t go our way. One of the best examples of embracing Gods will in the Bible is our very own Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. In the garden of Gethsemane as He pleaded with God the father about dying on the cross for our wicked sins. That experience! We can’t even fathom how Jesus felt, but He submitted Himself to the will of God the Father. (Matthew 26:39) And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.”


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Beloved, I want us to understand that submitting to God’s will on our own is very hard. It is only through the help of the Holy Spirit who enables us to understand that God works all things for good. As we make plans lets embrace fully from our hearts, “If the Lord wills.” Yes, we make plans, but we joyfully submit to the sovereignty of God. I pray that we desire that God will give or withdraw from us whatever He wills. I also pray we would desire what God wills, how He wills and when He wills to fulfill the desires of our hearts.

I want to encourage us that above all we ought to desire to live and make plans for God’s glory. He knows what’s best for us so as we make plans we ought to align with His Word not just for our selfish- desires. I will wrap this post with lyrics from Kari Jobe’s song-Cause of Christ. This song ministers to my soul hope it will bless you too.


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The only thing I want in life is to be known for loving Christ to build His church

To love His bride

And make His name known far and wide

For this, cause I live

For this, cause I’d die

I surrender all

For the cause of Christ

All I once held dear

I will leave behind

For my joy is this

Oh the cause of Christ

He is all my soul will prize

Regardless of the joy or trial

When agonizing questions rise

In Jesus, all my hope abides

Jesus my Jesus

For Your glory for Your name

Jesus my Jesus

I will only sing your praise


It is not fame that I desire

Nor stature in my brother’s eye

I pray it’s said about my life

That I lived more to build Your name than mine.





I was walking from school with a friend of mine and we were having just a general conversation about the life centered on Christ. It happened that he asked me what I believe in purity. ( He was referring to sexual purity). Well, I told him I believe in purity to the core and pursuing it out of delight. He quickly retaliated, “I think you ladies embrace purity with the end goal of getting a Godly spouse”. There is some truth in that but I decided to cement my answer with the word of God by walking him through Genesis 39.

            Now Joseph had been brought down to Egypt, and Potiphar, an officer of Pharaoh, the captain of the guard, an Egyptian, had bought him from the Ishmaelites who had brought him down there.

            2 The Lord was with Joseph, and he became a successful man, and he was in the house of his Egyptian master.3 His master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord caused all that he did to succeed in his hands.

          4 So Joseph found favor in his sight and attended him, and he made him overseer of his house and put him in charge of all that he had.5 From the time that he made him overseer in his house and over all that he had, the Lord blessed the Egyptian’s house for Joseph’s sake; the blessing of the Lord was on all that he had, in house and field. 6 So he left all that he had in Joseph’s charge, and because of him he had no concern about anything but the food he ate.

        Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance. 7 And after a time his master’s wife cast her eyes on Joseph and said, “Lie with me.” 8 But he refused and said to his master’s wife, “Behold, because of me my master has no concern about anything in the house, and he has put everything that he has in my charge.

      9 He is not greater in this house than I am, nor has he kept back anything from me except you because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” 10 And as she spoke to Joseph day after day, he would not listen to her, to lie beside her or to be with her.

     11 But one day, when he went into the house to do his work and none of the men of the house was there in the house, 12 she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand and fled and got out of the house. 13 And as soon as she saw that he had left his garment in her hand and had fled out of the house, 14 she called to the men of her household and said to them, “See, he has brought among us a Hebrew to laugh at us. He came into me to lie with me, and I cried out with a loud voice. 15 And as soon as he heard that I lifted up my voice and cried out, he left his garment beside me and fled and got out of the house.” 16 Then she laid up his garment by her until his master came home, 17 and she told him the same story, saying, “The Hebrew servant, whom you have brought among us, came in to me to laugh at me. 18 But as soon as I lifted up my voice and cried, he left his garment beside me and fled out of the house.”

    19 As soon as his master heard the words that his wife spoke to him, “This is the way your servant treated me,” his anger was kindled. 20 And Joseph’s master took him and put him into the prison, the place where the king’s prisoners were confined, and he was there in prison. 21 But the Lord was with Joseph and showed him steadfast love and gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison. 22 And the keeper of the prison put Joseph in charge of all the prisoners who were in the prison. Whatever was done there, he was the one who did it. 23 The keeper of the prison paid no attention to anything that was in Joseph’s charge, because the Lord was with him. And whatever he did, the Lord made it succeed.

In this story, we get to see how Joseph exemplified his purity. First of all the Bible tells us Joseph was handsome in form and appearance. Besides that, I also think for Potiphar’s wife to have liked him it was a big deal. When you think of it, for one to have been Potiphar’s wife who was an officer of Pharaoh she must have been very beautiful too. She was in a royal position because her husband worked for a prominent person in Egypt. For this reason, we can conclude she was an epitome of beauty and royalty. Generally speaking, any ordinary man would have been swept away by her beauty. So this lady had cast her eyes on Joseph and wanted him to lie down with her. This should have cringed Joseph’s heart I mean his master’s wife desiring his love yet he was but a servant in that house.

Honestly speaking Joseph had the opportunity presented to him several times. Potiphar’s wife pursued him not one day but day after day. (Gen 39:10). Joseph had been given the authority in that house. Joseph proved trustworthy enough to need no oversight, his master concerned himself only with his own meals or his very personal affairs. He would have made a good plan and scheme how he would have given in to the pleasure of sin.

This woman was not giving up on him in verses (11-12) clearly records, But one day, when he went into the house to do his work and none of the men of the house was there in the house, she caught him by his garment by his garment, saying “Lie with me. But he left garment in her garment in her hand and fled out of the house. She was very aggressive and determined to fulfill the lust she had conceived in her heart.

Despite the persistence of this woman, Joseph didn’t give in to sleep with her. Recall that particular day no one was around maybe Joseph would have changed his mind and fulfill her lust but he didn’t .I think Joseph prayed a prayer I love, “Lord, when there is an opportunity to sin kill the desire and when the desire is there to sin cease the opportunity.” so I ask myself why did he do that?. What made Joseph resist sexual sin with such zeal?

Well, I believe He did this out of his love, fear, and delight in God. Look at verse 9b He asks her,How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” His heart trembled that he would sin against God himself as the David says in (Psalms 51:4) Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you may be justified in your words and blameless in your judgment. Joseph also had great respect for his master and he was complying with the ancient Near Eastern law-code which did forbid adultery. Sadly, we see that he was put to prison because she falsely accused him of rape. That didn’t matter to Joseph because He walking in obedience to God’s word.

Today, I would love us to examine our hearts and ask ourselves why do we pursue purity or why would someone start to pursue it? Paul tells us in (1Corithians 6:18) Flee from sexual immorality. Every sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. He would echo the same instruction in (2 Timothy 2:22) So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. I believe God wants us to pursue purity because He is Holy and He demands that we are Holy. (1 Peter 1:16). God desires that be conformed to be like His Son.

So, how do we pursue purity out of delight? I believe it’s not a matter of dos and don’ts! Because it is exhausting since they are set by the standards of this world. I also believe in our flesh we can’t even desire to pursue purity because our flesh wants to embrace the pleasure that sexual immorality gives. Our flesh is frail it doesn’t desire God at all.

Fighting sexual immorality means war that is we don’t make peace with sin we vigorously wage war against it. Peter tells us, Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul (1 Peter 2: 11). It is a war waged against our souls. So we have to brace up for it through the Spirit of God by His grace and fight back.

Our Lord and Savior  points out  the danger of immorality by warning us, “If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. (Matthew 5:29). This doesn’t mean physically chopping your eye off. I would like to echo what John Piper’s writes in one of his Solid Joy Devotionals (If you don’t fight lust).  “The point is not that true Christians always succeed in every battle. The issue is that we resolve to fight, not that we succeed flawlessly. We don’t make peace with sin. We make war.”

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Purity begins in our hearts. How is our relationship with God? Do we have a personal relationship with Him? Only God can mold our hearts to love him and pursue purity with such a delight. Moses prayed such a good prayer to Israelites.

(Deuteronomy 30: 6) And the Lord your God will circumcise your      heart and the heart of your offspring, so that you will love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, that you may live.

I pray that God would do that with our hearts that we love him with every ounce in us and embrace purity.

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May God imprint His word in our hearts that we will pursue purity with delight. The Psalmist asks how can a young man keep his way pure? (Psalms 119:9). It is by guarding our hearts according to God’s Word. How I pray that we love to study His word which is our standard on how to stay pure. May our end goal be to focus on becoming like Christ not mainly to get a spouse (it is very important to desire a marriage that is pure) but marriage is temporary. Our end goal is eternal. Beloved, may we pursue our purity of delight, beholding to be like Christ.



Sharon Mueni.





When I started school one of the things I studied was who make up a family. My teacher said for a family to be complete we should have a father, a mother and the children. Well, this was not the case for me since I grew up in the hands of my grandparents. This made me feel incomplete and the name “daddy” became a strange and unfamiliar word to me growing up. This is because I have no memories to attach that name. Truth is I would have loved for him to have been there to see me grow to share my joy, my pain and hold my hand through the journey. Sadly, he wasn’t there I looked up to grandpa and my uncles as father figures but we can all agree there is just something about a father’s love.


Studies show that fathers play a crucial role in the mental, emotional and spiritual development of a child and the absence of a mature father-connection creates a void in the soul which can be referred to as “father hunger”. This void has deep psychological effects which I would like to touch on especially those that I have struggled with. One of the main areas I have battled with is a low self-esteem. Studies show that a father’s love boosts one’s confidence from the affirmation one gets from their father.

Knowing for a fact your father is proud of you goes a long way. Lack of this usually causes one to seek for acceptance to fill that void which results from father hunger. Often times one seeks this in promiscuous ways which only leave them more wounded that they were before. I personally have battled this kind of void which ran so deep and made my heart ache to seek for acceptance and approval.

I fought my pain silently, perceived life to be so unfair. I felt hopeless but the love of God found me and reminded me that only God can fill my void. My validation, my approval is rooted only in Him. He tells us in His word that He rejoices over us with singing (Zephaniah 3:17). Every day His Spirit reminds me that my identity is in Christ and I will say with the Psalmist “ I will praise You, for am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your Works, and that my soul knows very well” (Psalms 139:4). Truth is if God isn’t enough no else will ever be, He alone completes us.

As I walk through life I have also struggled to build and maintain relationships. When your father has been absent whether emotionally or physically in your life building healthy relationships is often overshadowed by fear. You often perceive that maybe people will hurt you. Chances are you either too vulnerable seeking to fill the void or you become too defensive because the pain of abandonment runs deep.

Through my own experience, I have struggled with trust issues. I build walls not to allow anyone too close to me. Insecurity flooded my heart so hard that the fear of rejection made me lose my hope in any relationship. This also led me to become too vulnerable seeking for sympathy looking up to people to soothe my pain. Through it all, I realize my emptiness could only be filled by my Perfect Father in whom I live and have my being.

I would love to encourage those of us who are familiar with this area. I can’t even grasp the agony anyone has gone through.  We all have different stories but hey we have a loving and a perfect Father who not only cares about us but also defines our purpose in life. He has our destiny outlined according to His Will.His plans are good for He has our best interest at heart (Jeremiah 29:11). Yes I know it hurts and the effects still stare at us but let’s bring our broken and bruised hearts to Him.  He is the only one who can heal. Let’s seek to know Him and have a personal connection with our Perfect Father.

There is more to life than to live depressed because of something we have missed. God is infinitely wise and His ways are perfect. I pray that He uses our agonies to be the greatest place of our ministry. I pray that we raise daughters of God to build the Perfect Father’s name above ours. I pray that God heals our wounds and uses us to shine light into this world.D addy is not strange anymore! GOD is our perfect daddy whether we have the presence of the earthly father or not. Hear this child of God we are never alone!

“Fear not, for I am with you;

Be not dismayed, for I am your God.

I will strengthen you,

Yes, I will help you,

I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’(Isaiah 41:10).

May God make us whole in Him that we diligently seek His heart.


Sharon Mueni.